About Me

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom  – Aristotle

Hi …and welcome to my WordPress blog, thanks so much for visiting, hopefully you’ll stay a little while  – and if you like it, why not subscribe 🙂 I promise I won’t bombard you!

I guess my name is a good place to start, I’m Carly – and I have a confession – I am totally new to this blogging business at the time of writing this; truth be told I’ve had a nightmare even trying to set this bloody thing up! 3 hours down and I’ve just started writing this paragraph, so bear with me if things disappear, re-appear, get jumbled or fall off your screen. Its not you, its me…

I’m 30 something (a woman never tells right!?) no children, 2 fur babies and currently back at mums house in Essex for the foreseeable, for reasons i’ll no doubt touch on at some point….

I love sunsets, music, dancing, spending time with loved ones, long walks, weekend breaks, starry skies and living in the now! ( oh and reading – highly recommend “power of now” Eckhart Tolle ) I can’t sit still for 5 minutes, always got something to do & somewhere to go… I can be stubborn but am well intentioned. I’m a glass half full kinda girl and will always believe in the good of everyone – until proven otherwise.  I work real hard, play harder and am often working on “me”….because nobody is perfect and life is full of lessons for us all to grow from ( Lord knows I’ve had my fair share I feel like I should be Buddha level enlightened by now) After all- if you’re reading this- no matter what you’ve been through, it hasn’t killed you and i’m sure has somehow made you stronger too! We have to take the positive from every situation and keep on keeping on!

My Mum (AKA the Mothership) was confirmed to have the faulty BRCA1 gene many years ago, as have several other members of my family on the maternal side. I was tested and confirmed to also carry the same faulty gene in September 2016 and it turned my whole world on its head. I hope that by writing this blog, it’ll not only help me process things, but also anyone else going through this or anything even remotely similar; heck, there’s been enough going on in the last 6 months that I’m sure you’ll identify with something – Even if its not a dodgy set of genes!

Check out my “F*ck it” page as well before getting into my blog posts, its in the menu above (at least, it should be!) , there’s just a little more info there too.

Thanks for joining me on my journey… I’d love to meet like minded people and  hear your stories and also to know if i’ve managed to reach out to even one of you and helped you feel less alone and more empowered to face your demons too!

Carly xx

One last thing…. Please… don’t read and run… hit “like” at the bottom of the pages you’ve read or send me a quick message if you’ve got anything you want to suggest or request … it would be great to get some feedback and know if its worth keeping on at this blogging stuff!  ( FYI , I can see ya’ll reading, but don’t know if you’ve laughed, cried, fallen asleep at your laptop or just don’t give a damn… I hope its the former!) You can also enter your email to follow my blog, in the right hand column and you’ll get a notification when a new blog is added – don’t worry I don’t share your details anywhere!

Thanks Readers, I really appreciate your visit! 


6 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Hi Carly…. My name is Linda Garrigan. I live in Dublin . I thoroughly enjoyed Reading your blog. Please keep writing. I wouldn’t know where to start. I also have braca 1. I’m 1week post op, double mastectomy and reconstruction. I have taken control and it feels to great to be at peace…The hospital staff and support I have received has been second to none . Your blog is light hearted and a joy to read particular today. I see braca as a piece of information I have that a lot of people don’t and it gives me power over my health. People empathise when I mention I carry the gene at least i know my options. You made me smile today do keep blogging ❤️

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    1. Hi Linda,

      In all honesty i didn’t really intend on starting as such, kind of just evolved from getting my thoughts and feelings down on “paper” ! So glad to hear that your hospital treatment has been great, definitely helps to make the whole process easier to cope with.

      I really appreciate your kind feedback, i’ve been in two minds whether to carry on but comments like this do help me believe in keeping it going a bit more! If all i do is make one person smile, then either way its all been worth it. 🙂

      I wish you all the best for your recovery form your PBM – cant believe youre already tapping away on the keyboard, what a warrior… After my augmentation i was as useful as a chocolate teapot for a week! All the very best, keep checking in let us know how you’re doing! 🙂 x


  2. Wonderful read! Not going to lie….i usually read a paragraph of a blog then close it and off i go..but i found myself reading all your content. I look forward to more! Im also brca1+ and had my breast surgeries last year. This year its the ovaries turn! Good luck with the blog! No doubt you will find your “brca sisters” through this just like your mothership has. (Love this name btw). Debs x

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    1. Hi Deborah,

      I TOTALLY empathise with that – Im exactly the same! So it means a lot that you’ve kept reading, it honestly does 🙂

      Congratulations on getting rid of your ticking time bomb…(never quite sure what the right word is there…!) It must be such a relief…ie chosen surveillance for now, but hope one day to get the strength that ladies like you have to bin the bastard boobies!!

      Despite this gene being a total arse, it has bought a lot of amazing things into my /motherships life too, so the silver lining is most definitely there for us all)
      Thanks for your feedback, I genuinely appreciate it. Keep checking in! 🙂 x


  3. Great read Carly! Here’s one girl you’ve convinced to look into genetic testing. Now where do I start?

    The C- word alone scares the crap out of me. Unfortunately I know a few too many people who have experienced it. Well done you for getting one up on cancer and taking control of your life.

    I wish you the best of luck in this area and look forward to reading more of your blogs, keep up the good work. 💖


    1. Hi emma, Firstly, thanks sooo much for reading. It means the world to me to reach people on something thats been such a bastard for me to deal with!!

      Where do you start – easy to answer, but much harder to actually do… Get down to the GP and ask them to refer you for genetic testing. This is where i got referred to the genetic counselor at southend hospital. I did have to push a little for this, although i know because my mum was diagnosed it was easier than most would find it going in “cold” (if that makes sense. )

      The national herediatary breast and ovarian cancer helpline would be perfect for you to make contact with and give you more advice that i probably an – check my “useful resources page” for their details. Wendy and her daughter becky REALLY know their stuff.

      thank you so much for taking the time to reach out on this it honestly means the world to me 🙂 xx keep in touch and keep checking in or subscribe to updates if you want ! 🙂


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